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Showing posts with label Small bits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Small bits. Show all posts

Thursday, January 12, 2012

re: "Moving Forward"

Becky at Small bits ("the bits and pieces that I am okay sharing with the world at large") shared some sage words for the diplomatic couple-on-the-go.


Money quote(s):


"As a spouse, sometimes it is hard to figure out where I fit and what my life will mean at each post. Today was thinking a lot about viewing each change as a blank canvas and opportunity for creation versus viewing each change as ripping me from what I understand. I think I have done both. I also thought about what it means to find yourself as a family member in this job that becomes a lifestyle. You need to be yourself but of course you are mindful of your spouse's career. It's a weird lifestyle in the way that we interact with folks from work almost constantly.


I am really grateful for a supportive spouse who loves me as I am and trusts me to find that balance. One day I apologized for playing soccer with all the kids instead of sitting around in high heels at some function. (It was an outdoor, casual event.) He looked me straight in the eye and told me not to apologize. While he gets the need to be culturally sensitive, he basically said, "You're an American woman and part of being an American woman is choosing who you are and what you care about. Sharing that is part of being a diplomat too. I love you and who you are. I trust you to know what is appropriate and when." " (Bold typeface added for emphasis. - CAA.)


CAA wishes he'd said this himself. It's all true. It's "leadership by example" applied to cultural diplomacy.



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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

re: "Overseas Pay"

Smallbits at, er, Small bits ("the bits and pieces that I am okay sharing with the world at large") weighs in from one of the border posts.

Money quote(s):

"Much is being said in FS circles about overseas pay for Foreign Service officers. I have said my piece in several places but I guess I should repeat it here. We are happy to take the 16% overseas pay cut if it is part of true reform and true change. We love our country and we want it to be solvent for our 4 kids. If that means my husband takes a pay cut, he takes a pay cut. And we will make the adjustments necessary. However, in exchange, I want real solutions."

In terms of the overall budget, it's chump change. Still, every little bit helps. And if every other federal employee had their pay reduced by a quarter, that'd amount to quite a bit of change.

Still, it'd also mean I go bankrupt and/or lose my house.

"I want my reps to tackle to big problems facing us: social security, medicare, etc. No window dressing. If they are looking at cutting overseas FSO pay, fine. Cut away. However, what other excesses are they looking at cutting? Are they cutting their own pay? Are they going after the budget items that cost the most? Are they going to cut things Defense asks for even if it affects their own voters?"

This looks suspiciously like one of those "rhetorical questions" that implies its own answer. But that's just my suspicious nature talking; Small bits seems more trusting and nice than I am.

"FSOs are middle class on the pay scale but we do get benefits overseas. Housing is paid, some utilities are paid, school allowances are paid for the kids. (However, kids in the US have free school too. My husband and I pay property taxes and state income taxes that support schools our kids will never use. Also, overseas schools vary widely in quality). In some cases at larger posts, there is a health unit at post. Sometimes not. A lot just depends on where you are. It might be a garden post with great travel opportunities. Or it might be pretty rough like here. You go where you are needed and do the job regardless of where it is. I think FSOs are compensated enough to live fine if we are frugal. There are lots of unseen costs though. For example, we have always driven older cars and driven them for a long time. Our next post will not allow either of our cars and so we have to buy a new one that is less than 3 years old from the manufacture date not the model year. Not something we usually do and completely out of our control. We can make the choice to go carless of course and we might do that."

I love how she drills this down to the personal level to make it less abstract and more like something a reader can relate to.

Personally, my own experience with "garden posts" and "pretty rough" has been that the "garden posts" are way too expensive for a junior officer to take much advantage of, and the "pretty rough" ones can be divided into those where the gunfire is directed at you and those where it's more-0r-less random and/or unaimed (i.e., "happy fire" or "celebratory gunfire").

"The next thing I want is for my reps to realize that the FS is not a walk in the park. As I said, some posts are pretty nice. A lot of posts aren't though. It comes across as insulting to say that FSOs always have these posh wonderful lives. Yeah, it is a really cool life and I am so glad we are here. It comes at a cost sometimes though. Numerous FS bloggers have discussed this. It is not a shock and awe measure. It is simply filling the need to educate Americans, including Congress, about what the FS is and what things happen. For every FSO touring Paris, there is another FSO riding things out in Iraq, in Libya, or on the border. Again, I am so happy that my husband is here doing what he is doing but it isn't free.

The last thing I want from my reps? I want CODELs to mean something. I think any time a politician goes to a place overseas, they should submit a report of how much it really cost (including to State and to the military) and what they accomplished. As a voter and a tax payer, I think this should be public record. I want to know what my reps are accomplishing with these trips. I think they can be very valuable. I don't think anyone can understand the border without spending some time here, on the Mexican side too. I don't think anyone can grasp what a huge job "securing our borders" is without driving along the river here and driving through the wide open ranch land. I would love to have my state reps come here and to give them a personal tour of life around here. My state is heavily affected by immigration and I would love for my reps to see things more first hand. So I think good CODELs are valuable. But they need to be well planned and accounted for. I think there are good Senators and House Representatives who are trying to use CODELs to understand the world better so that they can make better laws."

Codels. A lot of "fact finding" goes on around the world. I've seen congressmen visiting wounded troops whip out their cell phone so a bed-bound soldier or airman could call their family.

(It should be mentioned that the cell phone in question actually belonged to the State Dept. and was provided to the codel by the FSO control officer for that visit. So the taxpayer got the bill. But I still cant' fault their impulse.)

I've also seen codels stumble off their VIP air force jet dead drunk and wanting to have the base rental car opened up in the middle of the night.

What's funny is that both events I mentioned involved the exact same congressmen on the exact same trip.

Conclusion: Our congressmen are human beings, just like regular folks, only with a bit more pull in getting what they want when they want it.

(And no, we talked them out of renting any cars.)

Saturday, December 11, 2010

re: "Foreign SERVICE"

Becky at Small bits ("This blog is the bits and pieces that I am okay sharing with the world at large.") shares some thoughts from the FS spouse side of the house.

Money quote(s):

"(S)ome of the best people around here deal with hard stuff. And that maybe I am not the only one who has ever avoided sleep to avoid nightmares. I needed that."

Yeah. Just when started to get over my own nightmares, I now start having other people's.

Okay, that's a little opaque; but what I mean is I generally don't have nightmares (hardly, mostly) about my own traumatic events anymore (the wreck, Iraq, &tc.) but rather those of other folks' traumas that I've witnessed professionally. Morgue visits, crash sites; that sort of thing.

"Yes, you get to live in amazing places, experience all kinds of cultures, and have amazing experiences. However, this isn't always an easy job. You don't always go to work and come back every night to a nice house. You go to work and sometimes come home to a family in culture shock in a partially functioning home in a third world country. You can't always talk about work and so sometimes you come home and just hold your kids tight. Sometimes you live under constant stress from violence or pollution or disease. You go where you are asked and do what you are asked to do. I can tell you it is hard sometimes and I don't even do the job. I'm just along for the ride as a spouse.

Anywhere you go in the world, Foreign Service Officers will be on call 24/7 to help Americans.
"

That's why we're there. It's in the mission statement and everything.

&

"My thanks go to you and all the other officers who go to work every day because they care about their country and their countrymen. Because they understand that more than half of the Foreign Service is about service."

It's surprising how many people don't get that, probably because of how bastardized the concept of "service" has become in today's society. And partially because of how little people think of public service these days.